Turns out he's been feeling a little guilty for not making the changes that I'm making for myself.
As a result he snapped at me over something that was nothing. After he was done getting angry (I just sort of stayed quiet and let him have his irrational freak-out), we talked it out and found that was the problem.
You see, he drinks just as much (sometimes more) as I did.
It can be difficult to quit drinking when your partner/room-mate/spouse is not on board with you. I'm pretty much doing this without any external support system.
He told me he knows I'm doing the right thing, but he feels guilty that he is not. He is very competative in life and feels like he constanty needs to be better than everyone else at everything. However, he feels like I am better than him because of the changes I'm making.
I'll be honest; part of me does feel like I'm better than him... because I am.
He knows he should be making these changes to be healthier, but he's not. Sure, he runs regularly and is actually quite good at it (winning or placing high in many races he enters), but the fact is he could probably be better if he didn't drink 6-12 beers a day and eat around 1,000 calories of garbage snacks at night. He'd probably live longer too.
Just to clarify, I'm not throwing this in his face or anything like that, I don't lecture or poke fun at him. I'm going about my sobriety very quietly and keeping to myself. This is why I started this blog... so I don't feel completely alone.
All I can do is keep doing what I'm doing and hope he gets on board when he's ready. But right know, I'm looking forward to another sober day today.
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